So many times, during my deconstruction I’ve heard people say, “Well they aren’t real Christians.” When I hear this, it’s coming from 1 of 2 places. Either it’s 1 type of Christian calling out another type of Christian for their toxic or hypocritical behavior, or 1 group of Christians are trying to invalidate another group of Christians for being allies…
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Church is supposed to be a place where you can go to find comfort, peace, community, and healing. But what happens when the Church is the one causing the harm? That was the case for me. I started going to church when I was in Junior High. It started off as something I did with my friends but because of…
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Setting boundaries can be the hardest thing, especially when the people you need to set boundaries with are those that have spent years speaking into your life and influencing you in many ways. Deconstruction isn’t easy. I don’t know anyone that would say it is. But if you set boundaries from the get go, it will make it just a…
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So, during my deconstruction the thing I’ve been asked the most is, “Are you still a Christian?” Now I understand why this question is asked. It’s usually one of two things. Either its people wanting me to say no so they can point to deconstruction being evil and from the devil, or it’s from people trying to get a gage…
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How many times have you been asked, “Aren’t you grateful for your trauma because it’s made you into who you are?” For me, it’s been too many times to count. There were even times I would go so far as to say, that even if given the chance I wouldn’t go back and change anything because the trauma made me…
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