Setting boundaries can be the hardest thing, especially when the people you need to set boundaries with are those that have spent years speaking into your life and influencing you in many ways. Deconstruction isn’t easy. I don’t know anyone that would say it is. But if you set boundaries from the get go, it will make it just a…
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So, during my deconstruction the thing I’ve been asked the most is, “Are you still a Christian?” Now I understand why this question is asked. It’s usually one of two things. Either its people wanting me to say no so they can point to deconstruction being evil and from the devil, or it’s from people trying to get a gage…
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How many times have you been asked, “Aren’t you grateful for your trauma because it’s made you into who you are?” For me, it’s been too many times to count. There were even times I would go so far as to say, that even if given the chance I wouldn’t go back and change anything because the trauma made me…
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If you read my last post ‘Finding Peace When Questioning Your Beliefs’ you read where I’m at in my deconstruction journey. If you didn’t then let me catch you up. I’ve found peace in not having all the answers and enjoying the mysteries of life. I don’t feel the weight of trying to figure out all the points and perspectives…
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Just like deconstruction, religious trauma recovery can look different for every person. With that being said, they both have some basic stages and I want to break them down for you. The thing I want you to remember is that these stages aren’t linear. You can go back and forth between two stages, or you could be in two or…
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