Marriage is hard. Really, really hard.
It’s not something that allows you to just go with the flow. You have to work on it daily. Pour into daily. Grow in it and with it daily.
It takes hard work, dedication, compromise, teamwork, acceptance, struggles, hard talks, learning effective communication, time, and so much more.
So many times, we assume everything is fine or stuff our issues to avoid conflict, but in the end we’re just a ticking time bomb.
I’m sure I don’t need to tell you this, but that’s not healthy.
We’ve got to get past the stigma that asking for help, seeking marriage advice, and going to counseling is a sign of weakness. It isn’t. It’s actually a sign of strength and love. It means you’re willing to fight, sacrifice, and put the time into building up your marriage instead of watching it wash down the drain. It shows your spouse that you love them deeply, even amongst the hardships.
Finding time to go to counseling or attend a marriage conference can be hard. Trust me I get it. I for one have not done either. Finances and schedules have always been our biggest roadblock.
I bet many of you are in the same boat right now.
We would love to do marriage counseling but for now we have decided to start individual counseling and go from there. Our marriage isn’t on the brink of divorce and we’re far from falling out of love with each other, but we can see our marriage needs some work. Instead of waiting till our marriage falls apart and trying to salvage it, we’ve decided to get a head of the problem before it snowballs.
In the meantime, we’ve decided to do a 100 Days of Loving Your Spouse Challenge. This challenge was inspired by the books “100 Ways to Love Your Husband & 100 Ways to Love Your Wife.”
These books are designed to be simple and easy. Each page can be read within just a few minutes or less. Making it easy to implement what they are teaching on a daily basis. I don’t know about you, but as a homeschool, work from home mom and wife I need easy.
So far, we’ve found that the books help you put the needs of your spouse first. Not saying that your needs aren’t important, but we tend to think me, me, me in a relationship when it can be highly beneficial to stop and think, “What do they need? How can I love them better?”
Yes, this book is a Christian book, but I recommended it to any couple out there. If you aren’t a believer, you can skim over the more biblical references and still find it highly beneficial.
I also recommend it to any couple, including those in the LGBTQ community. They sell the books as a pack and as individuals so you can buy them to fit the needs and genders of your marriage/relationship. Get your copy below.
The first link is the combo pack.
Working on your marriage isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. You are worth it. Your spouse is worth it. Try the 100 day challenge and let me know what you think below or shoot me an email at Laci@TheDeeplyRootedMom.com
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