Once you have kids life easily becomes routine. Most days you’re just going through the motions trying to keep your head above water and keep the chaos at bay. Unfortunately the thing that will suffer the most is most likely your marriage.
You begin to focus on the kids so much that your marriage inadvertently takes a back seat.
We get so tied up in the routine of day-to-day life we forget to pour into and build up the relationships around us, especially the one between our spouse and ourselves.
The amazing thing about pouring into your marriage and making it a priority is that it will not only affect your marriage, but your whole family.
This is because children tend to be a reflection of their environment. That’s why little Timmy’s teacher can tell he comes from a broken or unstable home because of how he acts at school. The same goes for children who come from emotionally stable and whole homes.
When your marriage is in a place of peace, love, and happiness it will be reflected in the lives of your children.
So what can you do to strengthen your marriage? How about loving your husband in ways that make you break out of the normal day-to-day life!!??
Here are 11 easy ways to show your husband some love and help strengthen your marriage.
1. Write him a love note.
These can be as simple or extravagant as you want to make it, but to make it fun sneak it into a place that will surprise him. For example, his lunch box, on the seat of his truck, taped to the mirror for when he wakes up in the morning, or on top of his coffee cup. Having it be a surprise makes him feel a deeper level of love because you went out of your way to give him this note.
2. Put him first.
Take some time and put him and his needs first. This is going to look different for every person. Just pick something that will require you to put their needs or wants above your own.
3. Surprise him with his favorite meal.
Men love food and I don’t blame them. I’m a foodie myself. Show them some love by choosing your husbands favorite meal and one day surprise him with a hot plate of it when he gets home. For bonus points make his favorite dessert!
4. Let the little annoyances go.
We all have little pet peeves that can drive us up one wall and down another. Most of the time your spouse isn’t doing anything wrong, the annoyance is just with you. When those pet peeves arise stop, take a breath or two, and let it go. It’s not worth it.
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5. Give him grace.
Most of the men in our lives carry a lot of weight on their shoulders. For my husband he feels the stress of bringing home the bacon and keeping his business running. Sometimes he will be short and snappy. Instead of me getting angry I just remind myself of the stress that he’s under and I extend him some much-needed grace.
Just like we love to be listened to without being interrupted or fixed, men need the same thing. Sit and just listen to his frustrations, hobbies, or opinions. Make him feel heard.
7. Show him respect.
We, as women, will act out when we feel unloved. Men will act out when they feel disrespected. To show your husband respect you can seek out his advice, look at him when he’s talking, don’t interrupt him, or give him your support when he’s chasing a goal or dream.
8. Do one of his hobbies with him.
My husband loves when I come to the garage and sit with him while he’s working on his dirt bike or doing a project. Our next big purchase will be a dirt bike for me, and he’s excited to have me join him in this hobby.
9. Stop trying to do everything by yourself.
Men love to be the man on the white horse kind of guy. So, what can you let your husband help you with? I try to always let him be the one to help me open jars, kill spiders and so much more.
10. Be kind.
As women we can be snooty sometimes. (I’m 100% guilty of this.) Take some time and intentionally work on being more kind to your husband. That means work on your RBF.
11. Learn their love language.
I can’t speak enough about learning your husband’s love language. Once you learn what their love language is you will then know how you can love them better. For example, my husband’s love language is physical touch while mine is acts of service. This made me aware that my initial way of showing love isn’t his love language. This means I have to be intentional with my physical touch so his love cup gets filled.
To find out your spouse’s love language you can take the test at the link below.
Don’t let your marriage get stuck in the mundane of day-to-day life. Use some of these simple ways to love your husband to strengthen your marriage and break out of the normal routine you’ve both fallen into.