Do you ever feel like your marriage is stuck in a rut? Maybe you’re living life day to day just going through the motions and next thing you know it’s been 6 months and you can’t remember the last time you went on a date with your spouse and sadly you can count on one hand how many times you guys have had sex. I know, kinda sad right.
Don’t worry, if you’ve been married longer than a couple years than most likely you have experienced this. We all have. Personally, my husband and I have been in ruts a couple times in just our short 7 years of marriage. It sucks, but I’m not afraid to admit it.
A marriage is something that has to be worked at continually. You can’t just let it be and expect it to somehow magically be like the marriages in the movies. News flash, that isn’t real life! Sorry to burst your bubble sweetheart, but it’s the truth.
I like to compare a marriage to an Olympic athlete, it may be a little dramatic, but it gets the point across. So, let’s imagine an athlete that has qualified to be at the Olympics. Did they Netflix and chill or work out daily in order to qualify? Yeah, they probably didn’t Netflix and chill. I may be wrong, but I can’t remember the last time I binge watched Netflix and got out of my chair with a six-pack. Even after the athlete has qualified for the Olympics they don’t just sit back and wait for it to arrive. They are continually training and preparing their body to compete. A marriage is just like that, well at least a successful one is.
Many things can be the cause of your rut. For us, it’s usually after we have a baby or after we have done one of our big moves across state lines. Maybe your rut is because of a busy season at work that has you pulling a ton of over time or it’s from always being stressed about money or other life issues. Maybe, just maybe, your rut has no cause. You could just be stuck in a simple rut.
Just because you’re in a rut doesn’t mean you should feel bad about it, no matter the reason. After I had my first baby we had a lot to figure out. Our lives were completely different, and we also knew that within a handful of months we would be moving four states away. So, with this season full of learning how to care for a newborn and planning our second big move in our marriage of not even 3 years yet, meant that there wasn’t much room for anything else.
Luckily, getting out of a marriage rut doesn’t have to be hard. In reality it can be pretty easy. All you need is some well-placed intention and a few simple acts. To make it even easier on you I created a simple 5 Day Marriage Challenge that provides you with just that.
Each day equips you with a simple yet impactful task to do with or for your spouse. There are two things I really love about this marriage challenge. First is the fact that it takes the guess work out of the equation. No more wracking your brain for ways to get the spark back in your marriage. Next is that it’s easy to do over and over and over again. My suggestion is to do it monthly, that way you can try to keep yourself from getting sucked back into the chaos of the day to day life you both live.
So, if you’re wanting to get out of the rut and get back that lovely spark you’re desperately missing, then join the 5 Day Marriage Challenge below and let’s put some fire hot love back in your marriage.
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