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June 8 · Leave a Comment

Dear Black Lives Matter

BLM· Deconstruction· Spirituality

Black Lives Matter

Dear Black Lives Matter,

I use to say, “All Lives Matter.”

I use to deflect the conversation.

I use to minimize the issue.

I use to look for inaccuracies.

I use to justify.

I’m sorry.

Photo taken by Holly Jaynes with Think Good Things Photography in Silverton OR

From the deepest parts of my heart, I’m sorry.

I’m sorry I made it about me when you’re the one drowning in inequality and injustice.

I’m sorry I made it about me when I’ve never once experienced racism.

I’m sorry I made it about me when I’ve never experienced oppression.

I’m sorry I made it about me without seeing the injustice.

I’m sorry I made it about me without listening to your side.

I’m sorry I made it about me without realizing I’ve had white privilege from the day I was born.

I’m sorry I made it about me without remembering your history.

I’m sorry I made it about my humanity without acknowledging yours.

I’m sorry I didn’t listen when you were screaming for help.

Photo taken by Holly Jaynes with Think Good Things Photography in Silverton OR

Today I’m changed.

Today I listen. I look for ways to help and research how to be a solution and an advocate.

Today I stand with you and speak up for all people of color and demand equality.

Today I scream for justice. I see the broken system and urge for reform.

Today I learn more about your history and let the weight of it sink in.

Today I weep with you. I feel your broken hearts and beg for God to comfort you.

Today I humble myself before you and ask for your forgiveness.

Today the truth has been revealed and my eyes have been open.

Today I say no more.

Photo taken by Holly Jaynes with Think Good Things Photography in Silverton OR

No more will I stand idly by and listen to racism.

No more will I bury my head in the sand.

No more will I deny my inherent white privilege.

No more will I let you stand alone.

No more will I justify the actions of white people.

NO MORE.

Photo taken by Holly Jaynes with Think Good Things Photography in Silverton OR

Black Lives Matter.

Let me say it again a little louder for the people in the back.

BLACK LIVES MATTER

Sincerely,

A Reformed White Person

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